I admit to, at times, being a bit of a helicopter mom. Some of that may have been because I was a first-time mom with Kayla, some of it may have to do with having a child with a disability. It's hard to find the balance between hovering for protection and safety, and backing off to allow for growing independence.
Kayla will often say to me, "I got it Mom!" or "Let me do it!" and I need to listen to her more often. Listen to her pleas of independence and self-confidence. I need to back off and let her try and fail; I need to back off and let her find her way. I need to back off and let her figure it out. But at times, it's so hard to do.
I shared this story on FB last month of getting to the bus stop one morning, and wanted to share on my blog too.
bus was already at the stop this morning when we walked out of the
house. I took Kayla's hand and we started running, her laughter echoing
behind us. As we neared the bus she let go of my hand and cheerily
called behind her, "I got it Mom!"
As I watched her run on ahead of
me it was an unintentional glimpse in to the future where she continues
to confidently tell me "I got it Mom!" and letting go will be part of
She doesn't need me for everything and I have to remind myself that is a good thing.