tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post7850056109201014837..comments2024-03-18T12:13:51.922-04:00Comments on Big Blueberry Eyes: I Don't Want Compassion for KaylaMichellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02441176684416139172noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-48229317439203071962014-01-06T05:47:29.854-05:002014-01-06T05:47:29.854-05:00Pity is dangerous. It gets you nowhere. The defini...Pity is dangerous. It gets you nowhere. The definition- a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering is wrong. Its not "compassion" its pity. The writer should be ashamed disguising pity as "compassion".<br /><br />Why are journalists in this day and age still using outdated words? This isn't a "inclusion" "feel good" story, its a pity lets woe the girl with DS one. Sophianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-28758574999690073812012-10-20T18:38:19.521-04:002012-10-20T18:38:19.521-04:00Pity gets you nowhere. This is one of the first ru...Pity gets you nowhere. This is one of the first rules we must learn when we join the world of disability. Keeping our advocacy groups from using the pity card is the next lesson. Wordshurtorhealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12039330463065872512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-59233617360267720892012-10-20T16:06:38.565-04:002012-10-20T16:06:38.565-04:00Yes I love that children with special needs are ge...Yes I love that children with special needs are getting these honours, but not always the reasons why x Looking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-28791168514999307422012-10-19T13:14:02.463-04:002012-10-19T13:14:02.463-04:00Preach it! And thanks for doing so.Preach it! And thanks for doing so.TUChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929114678006935831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-17578027346400762352012-10-18T14:51:00.593-04:002012-10-18T14:51:00.593-04:00I hardly get the time to comment, but I'm alwa...I hardly get the time to comment, but I'm always reading. And I both loved and appreciated this post. Just wanted to let you know.Crittlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08868628035597050680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-25114594018808238232012-10-18T11:07:45.180-04:002012-10-18T11:07:45.180-04:00I enjoyed your blog & agree. I lost my sister...I enjoyed your blog & agree. I lost my sister "Chrissie" over 2 yrs. ago. I miss her so much. I never thought of her as handicapped. She was just "Chrissie". She grew up in a time where people weren't so accepting of DS. People were so mean, especially kids. She was made fun of & stared at. I got in alot of fights as a kid, defending her. I am so glad that things are different now. Just wish it would of happened sooner.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-79931047496673783132012-10-17T17:21:36.244-04:002012-10-17T17:21:36.244-04:00I understand your point, however, as the mother of...I understand your point, however, as the mother of an 11 year old son with DS, it is difficult to find "genuine" compassion among our children's peers at times. Sure, they are accepting and inclusive up to a certain age level, mostly on behalf of tender hearted parents, but many times the aside glances that are often cast by strangers, or the "pity" feeling causes some to veer away. These moments in the life of any child facing challenges help all of us to become more aware, more accepting of them. It may be more for US than for them. It increases our need to be accepting of a very diverse spectrum of challenges that unfortunately is not getting smaller within our world. It is never wrong or incorrect to allow a child to feel on top of the world! Sometimes it's all they have. That one moment, smile, look might be that child's ONLY positive moment. Celebrate and enjoy it, no matter who inspires it.bah7207https://www.blogger.com/profile/00258541907677416467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-82831341611749092312012-10-17T16:32:29.234-04:002012-10-17T16:32:29.234-04:00Thank you for this post...I have been mulling over...Thank you for this post...I have been mulling over this issue in my head for sum time now...I am not a fan of this and am not I will accept this for Maddie...I want no one to treat her different because she is perfect...her self esteem will come from us...and hopefully sum acceptant will come also...great post..smilesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06551567304485458524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-35509804967973361892012-10-17T16:02:16.045-04:002012-10-17T16:02:16.045-04:00How does Kayla feel about being included? even if ...How does Kayla feel about being included? even if it by sympathy, or compassion? Excited? Happy? As though she belongs? Included? Appreciated? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-65420626265136717102012-10-17T15:24:33.335-04:002012-10-17T15:24:33.335-04:00it was my parent's generation that 'hid...it was my parent's generation that 'hid' their children with disabilities. Inclusion wasn't even at the edges of their conscienceness. We've come far in a generation and a half- things could definitely be better- in the mean time- keep exposing the younger generations to their peers with differences....the wording will evolve with the kidsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-23888759329314777252012-10-17T15:11:36.050-04:002012-10-17T15:11:36.050-04:00While not the end goal , A compassionate environme...While not the end goal , A compassionate environment is a prerequisite to an inclusive environment. This trend is progress!Vincenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-29261439074832653812012-10-16T12:24:40.558-04:002012-10-16T12:24:40.558-04:00Totally agree. I feel torn. But I also feel a lo...Totally agree. I feel torn. But I also feel a lot of time it is the reporter using language that taints the story too. Hopefully, these kids just like and accept their classmates! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-47088913991023032602012-10-16T09:15:23.454-04:002012-10-16T09:15:23.454-04:00i like your theme blue color is looking cool :)i like your theme blue color is looking cool :)tvcornershttp://www.tvcorners.com/watch-sky-sports-3-hd-live-streaming-free-online/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-4007480984827187362012-10-16T06:23:08.279-04:002012-10-16T06:23:08.279-04:00Ah yes, I am always so conflicted by these stories...Ah yes, I am always so conflicted by these stories, too. Nice and everything, but necessary? I don't want people to feel sorry for Samantha. If she's voted Prom Queen, it has to be because they truly, truly love her and believe she should represent the school as such. I, personally, was never into the idea of prom or anything. I guess I just wasn't part of the "popular" crowd and definitely considered myself a strict non-conformist. So the idea of Prom Queen or King is all pretty shallow to me anyway. Maybe I'll feel differently when it's my kid shopping for a dress, picking a date, etc.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-76704442993986533692012-10-16T06:04:16.320-04:002012-10-16T06:04:16.320-04:00Well spoken, totally agree. Often times it's t...Well spoken, totally agree. Often times it's the journalists at fault, putting whatever angle on the story, in this case the compassion angle.<br />I recently read an article in a major Australian newspaper, describing a person with DS as " suffering with DS" (yeah really bad)!<br />ahoy.jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00362958130482625558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-55910438055715914672012-10-15T23:04:04.876-04:002012-10-15T23:04:04.876-04:00I can totally understand that... If ANY person get...I can totally understand that... If ANY person gets elected to Homecoming king or queen, it should be because of who they are, not an act of pity because of a special need they have. While some kids might just be excited at being included, others may realize that the other students are just trying to be kind, with the implication that this is the only way the student would ever be elected! Miss Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04409220869471005923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-19811673335773805242012-10-15T22:44:33.071-04:002012-10-15T22:44:33.071-04:00Hey, we don't have homecoming here and neither...Hey, we don't have homecoming here and neither do we elect (or whatever) kings and queens for prom. so, one battle down! I too hate these stories. Gag me with a spoon! (that sure dates me). I always wanted to post something about this, but it seemed such an American thing. I'm glad you did!!!Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375461078977866753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-34626728165443511102012-10-15T21:24:37.138-04:002012-10-15T21:24:37.138-04:00Very well said!!! Very well said!!! Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11035341481713866757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-78008289474735297412012-10-15T19:18:39.439-04:002012-10-15T19:18:39.439-04:00Hi there... Fabulous blog post. Have a wonderful w...Hi there... Fabulous blog post. Have a wonderful week :) Wasn't sure if you say this - http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/espn-airs-the-story-of-a-dad-who-wanted-to-abort-his-down-syndrome-daughterKathleenhttp://thejoyfulservant.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-37480289212346842552012-10-15T17:28:47.834-04:002012-10-15T17:28:47.834-04:00I always have SUCH mixed feelings about these stor...I always have SUCH mixed feelings about these stories...similar to the ones where a teen with Ds is part of a sports team and they "get" to actually play at some point. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Jaidahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06755041750426371969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-11307131450423975342012-10-15T12:44:01.976-04:002012-10-15T12:44:01.976-04:00That just nicely summed up my problem with the Hom...That just nicely summed up my problem with the Homecoming crowns. It's nice, I get that, and certainly better than the alternative, as you said, but I have this sneaky paranoid feeling it's the pity vote. And/or "sorry we've been so mean to you" vote. <br /><br />I also particularly did not care for THIS article - I don't know about her reading skills, but why was it necesary to mention the other student had to read her the poster? Why did it say "not knowing much about these [events]". Gah. <br /><br />Did you see the article out of Kansas City? I liked that one because the other students were like, "Yeah, and?" No pity, they just liked the girl. krlrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14392064691347464660noreply@blogger.com