tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post4515753323462841900..comments2024-03-18T12:13:51.922-04:00Comments on Big Blueberry Eyes: Contemplating the FutureMichellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02441176684416139172noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-81680715251258970192011-03-31T15:53:57.237-04:002011-03-31T15:53:57.237-04:00Unfortunately Carrie Bergeron and Sujeet Desai are...Unfortunately Carrie Bergeron and Sujeet Desai are no longer together. I recently read an article on Carrie from this past October citing her as the former wife if Mr. Desai. Upon further investigation Sujeet's website has removed all traces of Carrie. Very unfortunate. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-79331340210423766682011-03-07T16:22:26.982-05:002011-03-07T16:22:26.982-05:00We're alike - always contemplating the future....We're alike - always contemplating the future. I have no advice. My path might be slightly different in this regard since we have a boy. From reading your posts, I can clearly see that you and Joe are wonderful parents. I think that, in time as circumstances change and the kids mature, you will find the best path to approach this.Riahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06737298798388579270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-66918380323976460592011-03-04T21:58:15.552-05:002011-03-04T21:58:15.552-05:00Hi, just found your blog! Love that you posted abo...Hi, just found your blog! Love that you posted about this topic. Although my daughter is not even 3 years old yet, when I saw this episode I really began thinking about her future and this issue...so difficult with no right or wrong answer...thanks for posting about this!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935757091952994294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-64050732530187348372011-03-03T13:32:27.554-05:002011-03-03T13:32:27.554-05:00I am under the rock right next to yours! My daugh...I am under the rock right next to yours! My daughter will be 9 in just two weeks and I think about this every now and then, but always go back under my rock. I know this won't be an easy answer but I hope that when the time is right we will be in a better place to figure out the answers.The Henryshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878410407082384985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-31047514205494367702011-03-03T12:26:34.759-05:002011-03-03T12:26:34.759-05:00I have no doubt that you, Joe and Kayla will work ...I have no doubt that you, Joe and Kayla will work this all out. I can only imagine the sadness you must feel in regard to Kayla not having children. But even so, she is sure to have a fulfilling and meaningful life - God has a plan for her.<br />My brother-in-law with Downs is 51 years old. Interestingly, this has never been an issue in his life. He has never "matured" to an age where sexuality has been an issue. He maintains a job but has always lived at home with his parents. I don't think he is capable of living on his own. I blame that on the fact that in his childhood there was so much ignorance about education and training for people with Downs. I think he could have been capable of so much more. Regardless, he is happy and has many hobbies and activities he stays involved in. I think having a daughter gives you more to be concerned about regarding sexuality, being taken advantage of etc. <br />I didn't see that episode, and I am glad I didn't. I think it would have frustrated me too much.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05000458717596988346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-65151363815029066852011-03-02T11:22:37.467-05:002011-03-02T11:22:37.467-05:00Michelle, you are such a beautiful mom and your lo...Michelle, you are such a beautiful mom and your love for Kayla comes through with every word. <br /><br />I don't have any advice for your situation, but after years of reading your blog and seeing the love your family has for one another, I think you can rest assured that when the time comes to talk and make decisions, you will all be at a point where it will be easier to know what is the right thing to do. <br /><br />Kayla is 7, but only 7, and so much can and will change as she grows and matures. The Kayla you know now and the Kayla with whom you will talk through these things have years of maturity stretching between them.Bonitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13945043297139219733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-35575377010156396412011-03-02T06:46:16.433-05:002011-03-02T06:46:16.433-05:00Life, children, parenting...always a rocky road wi...Life, children, parenting...always a rocky road with ups and downs,frustrations and always decisions to make and also happy moments and love and etc. Your thoughts made me cry too..what you are doing right now is talking about this subject and asking for others their opinion (parents who have special needs children)and any parents thoughts..You are taking an active role (even tho, as you say, you hid under a rock) we are human, and we all hide under a rock numerous times thru out our lives, but, than we come out and face the important issues...I love you Michelle(and Joe) and I know you and Joe will come up with a decision or objective when the time is right...and Kayla too...And yes, it is sad that Kayla may not experience the joys of motherhood... Love MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-53894740811395424952011-03-01T23:12:01.999-05:002011-03-01T23:12:01.999-05:00Oh, this is the thing that I cried about the most ...Oh, this is the thing that I cried about the most after Goldie was born and I felt so selfish for it. Then, when she was two, a mom of a little boy with DS told me "You know they say most girls with DS end up pregnant." I was in shock. Who says that to the mother of a two year old? I'm not ready to come out from under my rock.Brandiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01704697731192764110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-41068672623361604802011-03-01T21:33:35.064-05:002011-03-01T21:33:35.064-05:00I cannot attempt to give you advise, only support ...I cannot attempt to give you advise, only support what you decide. This ranks next to the question of Life. I did not see Private Practice, but like the Mom you described, you and Joe will have to deal with, live with however you want to put it...the final outcome. There will be no winner only the Best of life you can deal with. Reality..boy you wish you could change it. Many times I wish I could have. Blessings and understanding, GPaDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-47202051061378680672011-03-01T20:29:40.387-05:002011-03-01T20:29:40.387-05:00No advice, I have no experience, it wouldn't b...No advice, I have no experience, it wouldn't be right to offer advice, but lots of compassion. It's not easy, is it, this parenting thing.Mom24https://www.blogger.com/profile/00061152728345287775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-35299887636588357312011-03-01T19:50:24.012-05:002011-03-01T19:50:24.012-05:00Wish I could help. Kayli is just reaching puberty ...Wish I could help. Kayli is just reaching puberty and it is so unexpectedly bittersweet. I suppose many parents feel this way but for us it is about the possibility that our children will not be able to make the decisions without help. I worry as much about the idea of guardianship as I do puberty.How does one truly know what the best decision is before it's made- really never for sure about almost everything!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-36764719601056467462011-03-01T17:12:18.805-05:002011-03-01T17:12:18.805-05:00I didn't see the episode, from what I understa...I didn't see the episode, from what I understand everyone was pissed that adoption wasn't considered and that the mom didn't tell her daughter what was happening...<br />Even though Brooke is just 1, the hubs and I have talked about this and we still have no conclusion...<br />like you I hope to provide with Brooke with all the info and hopes she maked a good decision...<br />but I can never see myself forcing an abortion on her...shudderNot a Perfect Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09538588358382300444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24014954.post-60662832796211424192011-03-01T15:20:45.471-05:002011-03-01T15:20:45.471-05:00I was shocked at the episode...but I could "s...I was shocked at the episode...but I could "see" where the mother was coming from. I don't say sympathize because I don't have a child with DS. But I will tell you - I do worry about my girls and the teenage years and all that - but it makes me sad for you to think of Kayla not being a mom. I just can't imagine....I pray you and Joe and Kayla make the best decision for Kayla when the time is appropriate.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03559851267066311204noreply@blogger.com